Today is all talk about Mom guilt and self-care.
Anyone here deal with those gut twisty feelings of mom guilt when you take time away for yourself? I do! Or maybe you don’t take time away because of them. I used to do that too. Give and go until there was no give and no go left. Lately I’ve been working really hard to let go of those guilty feelings by trying to look at the bigger picture. Taking time for myself not only benefits me and the little I love most but my entire family!
We have been in survival mode here at home for the last 2 weeks. Toddler tantrums, illnesses, stress, anxiety and no sleep. My drive and passion felt fizzled, almost forgotten. But OMG what a difference 24 hours can make!
I’m feeling revived, refreshed, alive and excited again about all my endeavors. Blogging, writing, cycling, building a business, coaching… What happened to flip my switch? Well, I finally got some sleep! I took some time to hang with friends who speak my language and inspire me to grow. Then I went for a gorgeous bike ride that really challenged my climbing abilities, took a long ass shower, ate some delicious pizza and now I’m typing away.
Dealing with Mom Guilt.
Where is Clary you might be asking? She is at pre-school which started about a month ago. Since then I’ve been taking Mondays for myself. Six amazing uninterrupted hours!
Do I struggle with mom guilt over this? HELL YES!
But I’ve learned that if I don’t take time out to fill my cup I can’t give to others, especially my daughter. When I pick her up later today she will have refreshed mommy, who is so excited to see her! My family will have an awesome home cooked dinner, (okay, awesome may be taking it a bit far LOL!), our home will have been put back in order for a hot minute and everyone will be a ton happier because I’m not stressed out to the max.
There is such a huge difference between a day like today and the days I work. Work days equal hustling to drop her off, pick her up, put dinner on the table, get her bathed, in bed and maybe say hello to my husband. RUSH RUSH RUSH. You get it. I know you do.
Mom guilt can be tricky. We all want to be there for our children and families 100%. But there is no way I can be everything to everyone all the time, and some days the only hat I want to wear is my own. I choose to focus on the positive impact this “ME TIME” makes on my family as a whole to help let go of the guilty feelings.
Re-framing Your Mindset in the Positive.
So as always, re-framing the mindset in the positive is where it is at! There are going to be days, maybe weeks where you just have to hunker down and survive the storm. And believe me this toddler storm is far from over LOL! But when you can, take some time just for yourself. Ask for help if you need too. You may not have the luxury of six hours like I do but maybe one hour could make all the difference.
Being the best mom I can be means investing in self care. And quite simply, I deserve it. So do you!
What does your self-care look like?
Do you struggle with mom guilt and how do you work through it?
Hope you all have a beautiful week!