Have you ever felt down, or downright depressed when you don’t get to ride your bike? I do. It takes maybe a week and then I’m grumpy, frumpy and pretty unsociable. But guess what? I’ve found a solution…
So you are ready to get out on the road with your bike but nervous about riding with traffic or other riders… Perfectly normal! We have all been there. There is a first time for everything.
Here are 10 RULES OF THE ROAD to help you get started and stay safe. Most of this information this has been pulled from the CA DMV Sharing the Road Guide with my own tips and twists added in. I’m not here to reinvent the wheel just get more people on two of them!
Well I know I do, and on many levels I think it’s just part of the human experience. But never has it made me feel good or feel a part of anything bigger or greater than myself. When I’m busy comparing myself to others it’s always in the context of better than or worse than. Basically I’m judging the shit out of you and of me; and neither of us ever measures up.
I believe that becoming self-aware is the first step in changing any behavior. Acceptance that we all do it and that it is part of human nature is key for me. Basically I give myself some grace.
Acceptance tells me I am not alone. What also helps is understanding that comparisonitis, defined as “the compulsion to compare one’s accomplishments to another’s to determine relative importance, etc.” is cultivated by our society for the purpose of monetization and conformity. Many societal trends try to teach us that “keeping up with the Jones'” will help us stay safe and connected. That we will be in the “CLUB”. Nothing could be further from the truth. What comparisonitis really does is keep us small, afraid and isolated if we don’t keep it in check.
Berne’ Brown is one of my favorite authors and it is to her credit I became aware of the Enjoli commercial. Enjoli is a perfume by Revlon who’s 1980 TV ad is great example the perpetuating idea that we are not enough as we are.
The ad says ” I can put the wash on the line, pack the lunches, hand out the kisses and be at work at nine to five. I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never let you forget you’re a man”.
It communicates the idea that we (women) have to do all, be all, in order to be enough; and if we are enough, then finally we might be accepted. Oh, and make sure to compare yourself with your neighbors, coworkers, or girlfriends and by all means judge judge away. It will sell more of this lovely soul filling product… because your soul is empty – didn’t you know?
ICK. Not something that I want to buy into consciously.
The last 6-7 years of my life has been dedicated to unlearning what I thought was the truth about me and the world we live in. I thought that I needed to be something different that I am, prettier, smarter, funnier, thinner, the list goes on. I used mainstream societal norms as my measuring stick and then beat the shit out of myself with it.
In my journey I have discovered that looking outside will never be the answer. The good stuff is always inside. Below are a few resources I have discovered over the years that I use to help me to embrace who I truly am, flaws and all. Today I believe that it is in my imperfections I am truly beautiful. Today I try to live as a human being not a human doing.
Here are 3 things I do when I find myself knee deep in comparisonitis.
I love this quote by Bree Argetsinger AKA The Betty Rocker, who I greatly admire.
“When you compare yourself with others you become bitter, when you compare yourself with yourself you become better.”
So for today, I’m just chasing myself, comparing self to self for my own betterment vs chasing down others approval.
The opinion of me that matters most is mine.
Today I rock and I believe you do too.